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How to Write a Matrimony Profile That Gets Genuine Responses
Your profile is the first conversation you have with a future partner and their family. Here is how to write one that sounds like you, answers the questions people really have, and attracts the right requests.
A matrimony profile does two jobs at once. It introduces you to a possible life partner, and it answers the practical questions their family will ask before anyone picks up the phone. Most profiles that get few responses fail at one of those two jobs — they are either a list of facts with no person behind them, or a paragraph of feelings with none of the details a family needs.
The good news is that a strong profile is not about clever writing. It is about being complete, specific and honest.
Start with the basics — and fill every one
Before anyone reads your "About me", they look at the summary: age, height, education, profession, city, religion, community and mother tongue. A missing field makes people wonder why it is missing, and many simply move on to a profile that answers the question.
- Education and profession: write the degree and what you actually do ("B.Tech, works as a software engineer on payment systems") rather than only a job title.
- Location: your current city, and in the family section your native place. Many families care about both.
- Income: you may choose "Prefer not to say", but a range builds more trust than a blank.
- Diet and habits: these matter more in a shared household than people admit. Answer them plainly.
On OpenShadi the completeness meter on your dashboard shows exactly which sections are still empty.
Write "About me" like you are talking, not applying for a job
Avoid lines that could describe anyone — "simple, honest, family-oriented, fun-loving". Everybody writes them, so they tell the reader nothing. Instead, give three or four specific details that only you could write.
- What a normal weekday looks like for you, and what you do on a Sunday.
- One or two things you genuinely enjoy — the trek you keep planning, the dish you cook well, the books you reread.
- What family means to you in practice: living with parents, near them, or wherever work takes you.
- What you hope your married life will feel like, in a sentence or two.
Keep it to around 120–200 words. Short enough to finish, long enough to sound like a person. If a parent or sibling is writing the profile, it is perfectly fine to say so — and still describe the person in their own words where you can.
Be clear about what you are looking for
The partner preferences section is not a wish list; it is a filter that decides who sees you and whom you see. Set it honestly, but do not make it so narrow that almost nobody fits.
- Choose an age and height range you would genuinely consider.
- Mark the communities and languages that truly matter to your family, and leave the rest open.
- If you are open to relocating, say so — it widens your matches a lot.
- Mention any deal-breakers clearly in your about section (for example, a strong preference on diet), so nobody wastes a request.
Photos: recent, clear and yours
Clear photos make it much easier for someone to decide to send you a request. Use three to six recent pictures: one clear face photo in good daylight as the main photo, one full-length picture, and one or two that show your life — at a family function, travelling, at your hobby.
- No heavy filters, sunglasses or group photos as the main picture.
- Keep photos recent — within the last year is best.
- If you prefer privacy, OpenShadi lets you show photos only to members whose request you have accepted. Others see a blurred preview.
Add your horoscope details if they matter to your family
If kundli milan is important to your family, add your date, time and place of birth (or at least your rashi and nakshatra). OpenShadi uses these to show a Guna Milan score with matches who have added theirs. Your exact birth time is never shown to other members — only the result of the match.
Get verified
A verified badge does not guarantee anything about a person, but it shows that you have taken an extra step. Your mobile number is verified when you sign in with the WhatsApp code; you can also submit an ID, education or photo document for review from your dashboard.
Review it once a month
Read your profile the way a stranger would. Is anything out of date — a new job, a new city, a newer photo? Small updates keep the profile accurate, and an accurate profile brings better-matched requests.
A good profile will not do the work of getting to know someone, but it makes sure the right people start that conversation with you.
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